The first holiday vacation with Sam's family. His lucid grandmother is ADORABLE!--a spunky fun 80 something, and I would love to be like that when I grow up. His other grandmother is not so lucid and in her 90's and very fragile, but I am very glad I got to meet her if for no other reason than it seems to make Sam feel better (she had a fall and a health scare about 10 days before we got to Tulsa that made it seem as if I would not get to meet her without an unexpected and very sudden adjustment to our trip). His parents are wonderful as always, and his brother is no where near as awful as they make him out to be. It was 76 the last full day we were there and we filled it with good Meixcan food and a walk with the dog.
My brother called me as Sam and I sat in the plane at Midway for the 18 or so years it seemed like we were tracked there. He just got engaged and will be married on the 4th of July. This all seems very sudden to me, and he is my younger brother so I of course project the fact that I have been dating my significant other for a year and a half ish and am not quite prepared to actually marry him and I am old, so obviously he cannot possibly be prepared to marry his significant other of a few months at his age. I get that there are some serious flaws to that logic, but I have not seen this brother since he started dating this woman (who we have all know for something like 20 years), and I did see him in August, so I think that my difficulty in dealing with this information should not be read as a meanness on my part. This is a whole lot of change to believe in while having no concrete evidence in front of me. I just want him to be happy and have very little with which to reassure myself. When I see them in February, my hopes are that all will be assuaged.
Oh yeah, and I "get" to be in the wedding. I HATE being in weddings, and I think I would rather NOT be in the wedding, but I also am fairly certain that my brother and future sister-in-law will be VERY disappointed if I were to have told them no (to be fair I have been in 2 weddings in my whole life--as a flower girl at 5 and a maid of honor at 23--and after the second one I swore that I would never been in one ever again much to my sister's utter abject horror because OF COURSE I meant no other wedding except hers at which point I told her yeah I don't want to be in yours either because it will be a wedding right? so it isn't against their wedding it is a general anti-participation prejudice against weddings, I find them far more enjoyable as an audience member and NOTHING more). Theoretically, I won't have to wear a hideous dress. Supposedly I get to pick a knee length black dress for myself. Oh and that sister will be in wedding with me. But so will sorority girls and actual cheerleaders. Seriously, my brother is marrying a sorority girl who was a college cheerleader and is now a cheer coach. I have nothing more to add to that.
Also, it seems likely that my sister and her boyfriend will come in to town tomorrow for a few days. Sam will meet her for the first time and her boyfriend will meet me for the first time. This will be totally AWESOME!
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But if he's known her for 20 years, he's got to have a fairly good idea of who she is, right? It's not like they just met a few months ago and are now getting married.
I mean, I'm one to talk, I was 30 when I got married and I'd known David since I was 17. My brother was 29 when he got married, and he'd been with my sister-in-law for 10 years at that point. On the other hand, I knew the day I met her that she was the perfect woman for my brother, and they were both 19 then. And I knew I loved David the moment I met him.
Well maybe that is what I think is weird. When they met he was 5, she was 8 or 9. And our families peripherally knew each other. And they used to go on not date dates when she was in college and he was in high school to go country swing dancing. I guess this was more important/significant to him than I gave him credit for. My sister and I mostly always thought it was weird.
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