Basically, I have taken over being in charge of having my boyfriend take his medicine. And I am torn over it (oh and this is his anti-anxiety medicine and his blood pressure medicine both of which he takes once a day).
Pros:
He is total crap at remembering to take it at all and at a regular time each day.
When he forgets, he takes a few days to adjust it back to normal which raises his anxiety level, sometimes a lot and then stupid ridiculous things happen like him setting fire to a pizza in the oven (because he thought it would be fine to warm it up in the pizza box under the broiler, it was not fine) as well as him panicking over small things that often make small nuisances into giant disasters.
He invents odd science that doesn't really work to explain/justify his spacing of meds.
When he is on his medicine, taken correctly he feels better, a lot better (as in not about to panic most of the time).
Cons:
Dude, I totally feel like his mom.
I can be a total hardass about it, and I don't think he appreciates it.
Dude, I totally feel like his mom.
C'mon, isn't it kind of weird.
Dude, I totally feel like his mom.
Well, and things just become very, very not good when his medicine is not taken. The doctor has found a good dosage for him, so he doesn't feel hampered by his medicine, and I would imagine that is in part because he takes a pretty low dose at regular intervals and that the blood pressure medicine is a helper at making him feel more calm and relaxed. And he seems to be at his best self when he is relaxed and happier. Off the meds he gets kind frantic and things start going wrong and wrong and wronger. Because he hasn't been on the magic dosage that long (other doses came with there own set of total crap effects), he does still need them. He is learning lifestyle ways to manage his stress and anxiety but they are all the kind of thing that takes a while to become second nature and super effective. So for now, I am the medicine drill sergeant.
Thoughts?
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Also I was totally going to make today's post about how the city is FINALLY in spring bloom. They put in all the tulips at the beginning of the month for the Olympic Committee visit, but they were just stalks, and now they are flowers!!!!! And it always happens over a two day segment which has been the last two days. Of course in some places in Streeterville and downtown, it happens overnight because buildings and places hire landscape gardeners and their crews to do this and they literally do it overnight or early one morning or one afternoon. In a snap!
5 comments:
i can understand how that would feel wierd. but at the same time.... if it makes life easier for the two of you, is the pro of it outweighing the con?
Does it work? If it's working for the two of you it's not weird. Don't let the rest of the world have any kind of say in what works or doesn't work for the two of you. It's not our business.
I think that's part of being with someone you love- making sure they are taking care of themselves. Sometimes, that makes you feel like the mom. I see it as you looking out for him, not being controlling or anything like that.
all men are babies looking for their next mommy. it's sick. but true.
i think if you love him and don't really mind doing it then it's not a big deal. maybe he picks up your bra and underthings up off the floor for you in return. i think it's all give and take.
Well, mostly I feel kind of like a jerk. I think he is glad that he doesn't have to agonize over whether or not he took it or that he forgot it. Plus he no longer must keep stashes all over his life in order to avoid forgetting it.
I will stop feeling weird since the general consensus is that if he isn't and if it is working I am being silly. And let's face it, the end result being me being silly was the probable outcome.
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